Cold rain pelted the windshield and slashed in diagonal lines across the passenger window as I gazed out to my right. That constant drip lingered all afternoon into the dark of night as I was getting ready to sleep.
The chilly torrent, overcast skies, and gusts of wind mirrored the questions hovering over my heart in gloomy uncertainty.
My fears about the future and current unconfessed sin were heavy burdens that night.
Freedom came by trusting someone enough for them to bear my burdens, confessing my sin, and thereby pursuing reconciliation.
Let another bear your burdens
Lies shadow and shackle our hearts. Often, lies also cause us to hide our hearts from others. We choose isolation and introversion to avoid hurt. Perhaps our fears of sharing our feelings and emotions stem from verbal, physical, or sexual abuse.
Or, maybe the fear comes from simply believing something about ourselves that isn’t true. We can over analyze and conclude that people will view us through a negative lens because we have come to think of ourselves that way from the rejection of another person’s angry, harsh words.
Either way, God calls His people to:
“Carry each other’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ” (Galatians 6:2).
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Confess your trespasses
Several times in my life, I have been tempted to hide my sins under the rug of my soul instead of bringing them out into the open. Confessing your sins to another godly person who can be trusted brings healing. For me, those people have been my mom, sister, and one or two godly friends.
Isolation is what the enemy wants for believers because it makes us an easy target. He can bash us with constant condemnation and shame. He can convince us that there isn’t a point in battling sin—it’s just too hard to conquer.
Sin is too hard to conquer—alone. That is why we need the reinforcement of other Christians and most importantly, the Sword of the Spirit and the rest of the armor of God.
We may be too wounded to put our armor back on. Our wounds may have festered too long and delirium may have set in. That is why this passage is vital to our growth:
“Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much” (James 5:16, NKJV).
Maybe you are still struggling. The enemy may be attacking you with fear-filled lies intended to intimidate you and keep you bound up.
What if they think less of me or won’t love me anymore if I tell them?
What if they think I’m stupid?
What if it makes my pain or struggles worse?
Don’t listen! Every time I have confessed sin these fears were unfounded. They brought relief, repentance, and healing, not regret. This is what it means to pursue reconciliation.
“Now all things are of God, who has reconciled us to Himself through Jesus Christ, and has given us the ministry of reconciliation” (2 Corinthians 5:18).
You don’t have to hide your heart, to preciously guard it against more blows of pain. Don’t clam up and board out the light of love and freedom that comes from opening up.
Throw back the concrete shutters that have been stifling you and let God’s Word blow, refreshing the stale air like a cool, fragrant spring breeze. He has made us to be a people who bear each other’s burdens, who confess sin to one another to be healed, and who choose to come out of the darkness of isolation and into the light of reconciliation.